t is not easy to deal with or cope with a controlling person. And it is, especially, not easy to cope with it being someone that you care about. Nevertheless, a person should not be completely blinded by love. No one deserves or wants to be controlled. If they do, they may have issues that they need to deal with. In life you'll come across quite a few controlling people. However, try hard not to let that stop you from carrying on and just being yourself. Let people see you for who you are on the inside, rather than deciding based on what is shown on the outside. Maybe this article will help others to cope with controlling people. There are a lot of them out there. And although nobody has all the answers on how to deal with them, some people have managed to cope with the ones that they have run across.

Recognize that you are dealing with a controlling person in order to combat his or her position because they want to be able to take control of you.Stand firm on the fact that you are not going to be controlled. Work together. In any relationship or marriage, cooperation is vitally important. That does not mean that either person is lord and master, nor should either of you want to be. It doesn't help in building a strong relationship. Point out to the controlling person that their ways are stressing you out or making you feel uncomfortable. Let them know that you don't need another parent, that you have parents already. Reassert the fact that you are not a child, and that being individual and responsible for one's own decisions is what adulthood is all about. Be strong so their problem doesn't become yours. Realize that you are not the one with the problem, you are making an effort to communicate your feelings in the hopes of facilitating a response in your favor. Do the things that you enjoy even if the controlling person you care for is not supportive as you do them. (Withdrawing their support is a way to discourage you from doing things without him or her, reinforcing the sense that you need this person in order to have an enjoyable time, rather than the healthier sense of just wanting to share things with him or her).

Spend as much time as you can away from controlling people, for you'll need that break. If you have made plans, don't let someone else cause you to break them. Pat yourself on the back by letting a controlling person know about the good decisions that you make for yourself. Use tried and true responses when you feel your loved one is attempting to control you. The old term "oh really" works well when someone else is trying to control the conversation. It beats stressing out. If that one doesn't work, try the old "whatever" phrase, smile, and leave the room. Leaving the room gets a controlling person every time, as they like to keep things going.

Remember that in conflicted conversations, the controlling person will likely become very manipulative and turn things around to the conflict being your fault and will try to gain your sympathy by crying or changing the subject to something entirely different from the subject at hand. Try to stay focused and tell them to stay on the subject at hand. If he or she persists, say that you will return to the new discussion at a later time, and refocus them on the immediate problem. If that doesn't work, end the conversation immediately. As stated in the previous step, controlling people often try to escalate or prolong conflicts because it seems to have the effect of wearing you down so that they get their way in the end. It's better to end the conflict abruptly, because this is one you will not win.

Don't let someone else tell you how to manage or spend your own money, unless you have hired someone to manage it. In a marriage, both partners should be deciding equally how money is allocated, and this is always negotiable.Don't let someone else live your life for you, manage it yourself. Don't allow anyone to talk down to you, for it is degrading and a form of mind control.

Leave your mate a simple note on your whereabouts, but don't act like you have to punch in on a time clock. Your obligation is to be considerate and responsible so that your loved one doesn't worry needlessly, but you are an adult and should be able to come and go as you please within reasonable limits. Stay focused on positive things, for it will help you cope. Do remember that it is within your power to set the boundaries on your relationship. If you set a tone that allows another to control you, it can be very difficult to get a partner who has been accustomed to getting his or her way with you to understand that you now wish to make your own decisions. If you set a healthy, autonomous tone in the beginning, your relationship with this person will go much smoother.

Not everyone can cope with certain types of people. So use your own judgment on the course of action that you should take. Controlling and/or manipulative relationships can be managed sometimes; however, if you're not successful in resisting control, or if the individual is extremely strong-willed and persistent, these relationships can be very destructive to your other relationships with family and friends.

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As I mentioned at my other blog Purposes that I would be sharing some picture that I took while we were out yesterday enjoying the nice weather in Seattle. The weather was nice yesterday , it was on 70's. So as today. Thank goodness, it stop raining and snowing.

Anyway here are some picture that I took.
This is me and my boo at SEWARD park in Seattle.

There is my baby boo, parking our car, I took the picture and guarding our puppy at the same time hehehe!

My boo and our puppy looking down and watching the ducks swimming.

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