Friday, April 24, 2009
If you want to know how to get over a relationship in less than a week, you have to be willing to let this relationship go. Once you're ready, it's not so hard. Although it usually takes over 7 days to completely rid yourself of that "it's - over" syndrome, you'll be surprised to learn that you don't have to waste a week moping and dragging yourself down. This article is generally more useful for shorter relationships - marriages or more serious relationships can be harder to let go of in such short time.
Use the first day to cry it out, and release your feelings. This is the best thing to do, to vent out whatever you feel and just have some alone time. Don't suppress any emotions - confront the things upsetting and angering you and release them, whether it be by crying, screaming into a pillow, or writing it all down. Use your next day to talk it through, and sort things out.Talk to a friend or someone trusted about what you thought about your ex, but think more about why you broke up. Talking to someone else means there's someone to verbalize your issues with, rather than trying to cope with everything on your own. Spend the day trying to sort things out - remind yourself why you can deal without this relationship and list ways to help you start moving on. This day is for clearing your head and setting yourself a clear sketch of your future without your ex.
On the third day, get rid of any possessions your ex gave you. You can keep them if you think they are beneficiary or they bring good memories, but only look at it as a token of friendship, not of your relationship. If they bring bad memories, then throw it out or dispose of it in any way you desire. Don't hang things from your ex all over your room. It shows that you are still obssessed and really into your ex, and anyway, it's just not healthy. Nearing the end of the week, use this day for relaxing and enjoyment. Going out with a friend is a good idea, so they can comfort you and make sure you don't get depressed. Make sure you don't go somewhere that will bring memories of your ex. If you opt to spend the day alone instead, make sure you keep your mind off your ex and firmly on you. Pamper yourself, spend time relaxing, or go out and do something you enjoy to lift your spirits. On the fifth day, focus on yourself. Don't let yourself mope, but rather, spend some time re-working your goals and values and reminding yourself of who you are. Brush up on your independency skills and do whatever you can to make yourself strong.Remember who you are.Relax over the next two days. Essentially, you've done all the hard work. But use the extra two days to really stop thinking about your ex, or rather, sort it all out with yourself. Do things to make you happier and healthier and prepare yourself to properly move on.
Act in a respectable manner, always - don't lose your dignity. Friendship and loving family members are always a good support system after a hard breakup. Force yourself not to mope or be depressed - let yourself be sad but don't sink into a trap. Particularly after a very serious or long relationship, you may be left unsure of who you are, and what your true goals are, now that you're single. Spend a lot of time focusing on that aspect of yourself, as it will make you feel more focused and independent.
You may regret what you did.Not everybody is ready in one week to get through this routine, this is just a guide on how to get on the road to recovery Never go out on a date with someone else right after a relationship just as a distraction - it's selfish and in the long term, it won't help you much.
You enable yourself to choose a healthy snack by purchasing healthy foods from the grocery store! By making pre-emptive healthy decisions, you increase your likelihood of eating healthily when it actually comes to the fact.
Eat before you leave. When you go grocery shopping, make sure you are not hungry! If you are hungry when you go grocery shopping you are more prone to buy junk food. Add healthy ideas. If someone else shops for your household, politely suggest a list of healthy foods to guide their shopping decisions. This list should include many green vegetables (potatoes and corn are not green vegetables, so they don't count), a variety of fruits (limit the bananas), whole grain foods, lean meats, unsalted nuts (peanuts and cashews don't count) etc. Cut down on the junk food. If you find the transition from junky food to healthier food too extreme, begin by buying less unhealthy foods. For example, instead of Pringles™ buy baked tortilla chips; instead of ordering take out pizza, buy a veggie pizza at the store.
Avoid buying or accepting sweet and fatty foods! If these things aren't in your house then you can't be tempted by them! Especially dangerous foods that should be avoided are ice cream, cookies, any leftover desserts, and candy.Develop a routine of self control. So now that you have striven to keep unhealthy foods out of the house to begin with, you must focus on developing a strong sense of self control because you will not always be in controlled situations. Start by focusing less on food. If you look forward to coming home from wherever you have been and having a nice little snack; stop this destructive habit! The more you think about food, the more you build up a temptation to overeat. Think of eating as a necessity, not a comfort thing. Drink tea, coffee or water to soothe yourself on returning home. Match the healthy psychology about snacking with action. You can still allow yourself snacks, but eat slightly less and less frequently. A self-test to see if you're really hungry: if you search around the refrigerator and pantry, you are not really hungry; you're just eating compulsively. If you have a particular snack in mind, like eating an orange, you probably really do need nourishment. This is not to say, however, that just because you are craving ice cream it is alright to eat it. Remember to observe the distinction between mouth-hungry and stomach-hungry.
Keep the content of your snacks healthy. Try to balance them according to your meals. For example, if you ate cereal at breakfast, a cheese sandwich at lunch, and macaroni and cheese for dinner, you shouldn't have yogurt as a snack. Your best bet is to have a piece of fruit, snack bar, or a tasty vegetable, like carrots or baby tomatoes. Remember the crucial steps in eating spur-of-the-moment healthy snacks: first, be sure you buy predominantly healthy foods. This means avoiding anything the has a lot of trans fat, calories, or starch (especially sugar). Second, try to exercise self-control. Too much of anything is bad for you, so don't eat huge snacks. Third, don't focus or depend on your snacks. Only eat them when you are actually hungry. Fourth, when you do eat snacks, eat something that will supply you with nutrients lacking from your meals. Finally, you can always count on whole grain foods, fruits, vegetables, and most unprocessed foods to be relatively healthy.
If you slip up and eat something really bad, it's absolutely ok unless you make it a habit! Don't engage in the practice of social eating. If you're at a party, avoid the appetizer dish (usually finger foods have an enormous amount of calories). Here are some ideas: walnuts, almonds, macadamia nuts (all unsalted), oranges, apples, banana, raw veggies (carrots, celery). If all else fails, keep some gum handy. Its five calories are quite a contrast to the hundreds you could consume from an unneeded snack. Also, strongly flavored teas can assist, such as peppermint, because they take away the dryness and tastelessness of your tastebuds and give you a sense of having enjoyed something.
Ice cream tends to be an addictive trap. Once you are used to having it every day, you begin to crave it. To curtail this problem, don't allow yourself daily access to ice cream (i.e. don't keep it in your freezer regularly). If you didn't already know this, oil is liquid fat. However, it is the kind of fat that your body needs. It is known as unsaturated fat, and is your BEST choice compared to saturated and trans fat. Don't let the term "partially hydrogenated" confuse you, either. This is just a fancy way for saying "trans fats added".Popcorn is delicious and healthy, when you don't add liquid butter (again, this is fat). Try sprinkling a little Parmesan cheese on top for flavor. Stay away from anything that has "high fructose corn syrup". It is an artificial sugar that contains several health hazards.