Thursday, March 12, 2009
When you are having a really rough time at home, it doesn't really help when your friends turn against you or hurt you. This can happen when you least need it, or expect it, and you don't really know what to do when nobody is on your side and you just end up thinking that you are the 'loner'. Don't worry, there are ways to help sort things out.
Hang around with older students you know or with people who are out of school/college. That way you will let your ex-friends know they aren't the only people you need.Don't let your friends scream or shout at you. If you do, other people will think that you're really soft and you can't do anything, so don't shout or scream back at them - you will be just as bad. Just speak in a calm tone and tell them if they don't want to treat you like a human being, then you don't really want to talk. This should earn you a little respect. Stop apologizing. If you aren't talking to your friends and you really want to, don't keep going to them and saying sorry. You are really wasting your time and you are going look desperate.Let them think that you don't need them and you are doing much better without them, that way you can earn some respect. Seek out support with a counselor or somebody you can trust. If you are experiencing hard times at home and a loss of supportive friendships, it can be emotionally damaging and you need support from somewhere to tide you through.
Be careful when you are around your mates, cos' you don't wanna trip and be scarred for life of total embarrassment. Watch your back,your friends may do things behind your back which they may think funny, but you'll take it in a wrong way and think they were being cruel.Let your friends get the message, by which things you do, that you can't be bossed about.