Saturday, March 28, 2009
Ever had a friend take advantage of you? Well, some people don't realize that their friends are human. They also don't understand that their friends deserve respect. Don't jump to conclusions. If you think a friend is using you, think about it calmly and objectively. Think about how you think they are using you. If you are really stuck, it may be worth asking a mutual friend if he or she has spotted anything out of order recently.
Imagine your positions are switched and think up a possible situation (one where you think your friend used you is better). Think about your reactions to what your friends are saying/doing and vice versa. If they did something you'd never, ever do, then it's possible they are using you. (i.e.: friend asks for a CD, you'd give it back, he or she wouldn't and now ignores you = using) Confront your friend in a calm but assertive manner. Tell them your reasons for suspecting that they are using you. Apologize if you were wrong. It's not nice to be accused of using somebody.
Look them straight in the eye when confronting them. Don't joke around when confronting them. You want them to know you are being serious. Question them on their actions, they might have a reasonable answer that just needed explaining. Before you go around accusing people, make sure that it really is a problem and you're not just making a big deal out of nothing.
If you ask them once and are satisfied that they aren't using you, drop the topic. Don't ever accuse somebody of using you to get your own way, as this isn't nice. Don't bring along another friend, or the accuse might feel surrounded. Make sure it's one-on-one and you're in a comfortable setting. If you are not sure the friend is using you wait a while, ask other people and don't ask them about it right away because it may not be true!
I have two stress days. I was so stress yesterday and still stress today. Felt like I wanna punch somebody. Gusto kong manabunot ahhhh. Here is the whole story: Eto ba namang step daughter ko, he begged my husband ho buy a puppy 4 months ago. Well, she was so excited at first to have the puppy. She feed and played with the puppy, take her to the bathroom, after a few months the excited was gone, kasi she does not want any responsibility. Sabi ko to have a dog is life time commitment, she should have though of all the responsibility that she will be facing before asking for one. This step daughter of mine, ni mag wash ng damit at ng bedsheet di pa magawa. Super tamad! Nag decide ba naman sya a few days ago na ayaw na daw nya ng puppy, stress daw sa kanya. What! kako, ni wala na nga syang ginagawa d2 sa bahay. All she does is sleep,eat and shit.
She is so lazy, I don't hate my step daughter or anything like that but man.....she is so lazy, she doesn't even clean her bedroom if her dad does not tell her so. me and my husband exchange words about her. Sabi ko sa asawa ko that puppy is a living thing, she can't just dump the dog if she doesn't not want it. Is that what she is going to do if she get's pregnant? Take not.. this girl is 20 years old. so irresponsible! Of course , who am I to say things like that... Im just the step mom ..right? Every time I tell my hubby that, he doesn't say anything so, his side is with his daughter, its very obvious!
That's not the only problem I am having with his daughter, a lot more.... But I don't have any say about it. That is why I am so stress, no body to talk to about it...not even my husband. All I can do is voice out my anger blogging.Maybe it will ease the madness I am feeling right now. . No matter what kind pf patient I have, anyone who is facing the same issue as me, I am sure their patient will run out too. Ewan.......... buhay nga naman. I hope I can still hold on.